What kind of marriage education do we need?

[UTON Blockchain]

Marriage is often romanticized, but the reality is far more complex. Many couples enter marriage with little understanding of how to navigate conflicts, communicate effectively, or manage shared responsibilities. So, what kind of marriage education do we actually need?

First, we need practical tools—not just fluffy theories. Think conflict resolution skills, financial planning, and emotional intelligence training. Second, real talk about expectations. Too many people go into marriage with unrealistic ideals, only to face disappointment later. Finally, normalize ongoing education. Marriage isn’t a one-time event; it’s a journey that requires constant learning and adaptation.

What’s missing in today’s marriage education? Should it start earlier, like in schools? Or is it something couples should figure out on their own? Let’s discuss!

[ManOftheWorld]

People don't have enough experience, they get married too early, without having lived enough time together.

[DeathAngel]

I don’t think there needs to be marriage education, the thought of that just seems so forced. You shouldn’t need to be coached on how to have a good marriage. If you love your spouse it should all cone naturally.

[Face_lex]

We really need marriage education to be able to navigate our marriage experiences properly. This education mustn't come from a church or a religious body but from experienced hands who have years of experience in marriage, especially the ones the participants may have witnessed. No one goes into marriage with the idea that he/she is going to divorce, therefore getting educated or getting knowledge on what to expect and how to handle what to expect is vital. The education must focus on tolerance, communication and understanding, and also the difference between men and women.

Marriage education should focus on the areas that would enable the participants live happily ever after

[franky1]

"yes dear, it was me, im sorry"

when they want to rant about a problem.. listen(let them vent), dont fix(dont offer solutions)


is all you need to know

[Hispo]

I don’t think there needs to be marriage education, the thought of that just seems so forced. You shouldn’t need to be coached on how to have a good marriage. If you love your spouse it should all cone naturally.

All come up naturally if one loves one partner, that is true, but I also have the impression OP is right when he points out marriage has been romanticized and fixed up to some expectations in the eyes of many people, specially in the west. Previous generations, for example, had access to buy a home and start their family as early as their late twenties, this new generations cannot do that. So there are expectations on wealth, minimum income, life style and even on the figure of both men and women are supposed to represent in a household.
When you see tv shows, you never see the main married characters discussing economical problems or whether they will able to pay rent and afford their groceries, etc. All is idealized so the plot can evolve around less mundane issues, in order to entertain viewers, though, the negative side is what I have already said, there is a cultural misrepresentation of marriage.

[Frankolala]

Down here in my church, before two people are joined together as one, they must attend marriage class organized by the church to teach couples on how to live their lives when they start living together. It's a three month course, and I think that is enough. You learn about temperament of your partner and how to communicate the right way to your partner so that issues can be resolved.

[aoluain]

People don't have enough experience, they get married too early, without having lived enough time together.

I agree, traditionally in Europe people have gotten married on average in their early
29's with maybe only knowing their partner a few years prior, IMO its not long enough
and generally marrying so early may not suit a lot of people or couples.

I don’t think there needs to be marriage education, the thought of that just seems so forced. You shouldn’t need to be coached on how to have a good marriage. If you love your spouse it should all cone naturally.

It does come naturally for a lot of couples but not for all. Sometimes it seems
like one or both want to be married but also want to be single too and dont
like the confines or boundaries Marriage places on people.

[Fiatless]

What’s missing in today’s marriage education? Should it start earlier, like in schools? Or is it something couples should figure out on their own? Let’s discuss!

Tolerance is one of the attributes that make marriage work. If couples don't learn how to accept the weakness of others, there will always be conflict. Nobody is perfect, that's why we shouldn't expect much from people.

Most people don't like infidelity in marriage. Moat marriages break because of cheating from partners. Married couples should be faithful to themselves. It is better to divorce than to engage in a secret relationship that is not approved by your partner.

Some people don't know how to sacrifice for others. Partners should be selfless and be able to make sacrifices for each other. A union that is driven by self-centeredness will not last.

[tvbcof]

Choosing one's spouse is kind of a modern-day anomaly for the human species.  To this day, marriages are often arranged for political purposes.  The class that one belongs to pretty much dictates the scope of the political circle.

Frankly, it seems to me that arranged marriages tend to be more stable.  Probably because unrealistic expectations are not set and thus need not be met.

In the rapidly approaching technocratic feudalism model, marriages may or may not be chosen externally, but control over childbearing will be strongly enforced by 'experts' in 'the leadership'.  Eugenicists are very well represented among the technocrats.  It may well be deemed more 'efficient' to have a situation where the masses bear children who are, genetically, the product of the leadership.

You have been warned.

[virasog]

I don’t think there needs to be marriage education, the thought of that just seems so forced. You shouldn’t need to be coached on how to have a good marriage. If you love your spouse it should all cone naturally.

Well marriage education may not be the right term but it is actually the marriage counselling that should be emphasized about. People don't need coaching on how to love their partners (as it is a natural process) but they do need to be taught about the challenges that can arise in a marriage.

They may be taught about the strategies to communicate in a good way, resolve conflicts in a more friendly manner and also to build a strong, more long last relationship. Why marriages don't last longer these days, one aspect is the lack of counselling. One of the hot topic of this counselling is that couples manage their expectations from each other.

[Roseline492]

Marriage is often romanticized, but the reality is far more complex. Many couples enter marriage with little understanding of how to navigate conflicts, communicate effectively, or manage shared responsibilities. So, what kind of marriage education do we actually need?

First, we need practical tools—not just fluffy theories. Think conflict resolution skills, financial planning, and emotional intelligence training. Second, real talk about expectations.

The best practical tool before marriage is going into courtship relationship because in it you don't only realize how much your partner meant to you but you will also learn how to resolve conflicts between you both, actually there are important factors I consider in courtship because from courtship you would no if you can spend the rest of your life with the person or not, there are people who fall in love at first sight and are willing to get married but courtship show them the reality face of marriage and it becomes unbearable to some, Actually talking about expectation doesn't educate the both in marriage because you can have expectations but lack tolerance, so for me tolerance represents 40 to 50 percent in marriage because that's what will make you to become adjustable to your spouse so you can how courtship can educate you to unravel some of the mystery in marriage.

[Solosanz]

For women: don't trust friends words, don't increase lifestyle if you can't afford, and support your husband.
For men: focus on career and don't abandon your wife after you get rich.

For both: marriage isn't the end of life, but marriage is the beginning of life and it's full of suffering.

"yes dear, it was me, im sorry"

when they want to rant about a problem.. listen(let them vent), dont fix(dont offer solutions)

You're correct since women only need to be listened, not like men who want to seek for solution.

But, men have a high pride, I don't think men will like to apologize in everything. There must be a time, the men tired for doing that and want to be listen.

[Solodoski]

What’s missing in today’s marriage education? Should it start earlier, like in schools? Or is it something couples should figure out on their own? Let’s discuss!

with all the marriage counselors we have now, we have more divorce rate that our fathers had even though they never had any sort of marriage education and seminars that would have helped them in their marriage. from observation, the difference is that most marriages are built and driven by the need to have a sex partner and not necessarily someone that is compatible enough to navigate life with. marriage education is good and helps one know what to expect and how to prepare for the journey of marriage, in addition to that, the right mentality regarding why people gets married is very important because it is what helps married couple adapt to the fact that they are joined to someone that is of a different background with a totally different upbringing and hence the need to tolerate each other is essential if the marriage is to last long.

[uchegod-21]

In my country, there's nothing like marriage education or it is not patronized. But we embrace what they call marriage counselling which is often done by some pastors whose marriages failed. They counsel them and the couples easily forget what they were taught.
The most important thing that defines compatibility is sex life. If your partner is able to satisfy you on bed, you guys are good to know. Not knowing that they need all and more than what OP mentioned above to succeed in marriage.

Funny enough, our forefathers who practiced their traditional method of marriage, has more lasting and lovely marriages.

[Nothingtodo]

We must learn to enjoy married life beautifully, the husband will protect the dignity of his wife and the wife will protect the dignity of her husband.  It must be remembered that people enter into marriage to form a beautiful bond between them, not to separate.

[Yucky]

When I think about marriage, I think about companionship. And when you think about companionship, you think about matching energy, understanding, genuine love, and mutual care  not just saying the word 'love' but meaning every fiber of it. Because if you really love somebody, you'll figure it out with them no matter what.

Before you get married, these are foundational things you should have accomplished first. As long as there was no gun pointed to your head to say 'I do,' you should have searched yourself and your partner. Do you really love this person? Can you see yourself with them for the next 50 years? Ask yourself a lot of questions. When sickness comes, when crisis comes, will I still be with this person? Assess yourself critically before you get married.

Luckily, in my religion, there's a marriage class, so before you get married, as long as you're in church, both you and your partner attend the marriage class for a minimum of three months. You keep assessing, testing, and evaluating how you'll handle marriage.

To me, marriage education is needed, but at a more advanced age, not necessarily in schools. Maybe when you're approaching marriage, get a marriage counselor, or if you're in church, go for marriage class. The rate of divorce this modern time, is too much and a lot of people don't even understand this marriage thing, and you see marriages failing after three or six months.

[NicNacCoin]

Marriage is often romanticized, but the reality is far more complex. Many couples enter marriage with little understanding of how to navigate conflicts, communicate effectively, or manage shared responsibilities. So, what kind of marriage education do we actually need?

First, we need practical tools—not just fluffy theories. Think conflict resolution skills, financial planning, and emotional intelligence training. Second, real talk about expectations. Too many people go into marriage with unrealistic ideals, only to face disappointment later. Finally, normalize ongoing education. Marriage isn’t a one-time event; it’s a journey that requires constant learning and adaptation.

What’s missing in today’s marriage education? Should it start earlier, like in schools? Or is it something couples should figure out on their own? Let’s discuss!

It is not advisable to get married during school life because school life is the age of education and one should never end one's life by getting married. It is best to establish oneself and get married after establishing oneself. There are many people who get married without establishing themselves, as a result, it is seen that their family is in turmoil because without money, wealth, and housing to meet such basic needs, a family can never be happy. It is not enough to just get married, it must be a happy family, only then will a beautiful family of two minds begin. Nowadays, it is seen that there are troubles in the family, there are conflicts between husband and wife, and all this is due to their own mistakes of not getting married on time and getting married without establishing themselves.

[Ucy]

The most appropriate marriage education would be the teaching of pre-made marriage formula or rules, which when followed by both genders, creates a successful marriage life. It's an already developed (developed by the CREATOR) formula in human society for successful marriage.

Marriage defined:
Marriage is a union of man and women to become single entity.
 The union is based on agreement, rules or formula that have to be obeyed or followed by the man and woman.



Part of the agreement:
* The CREATOR of the Universe is the GOD of the family

* The man is the head of the family, like a king is to a country.

* The woman is the queen of the family.

* The children are their subjects

* The Law/Word of the CREATOR is the constitution. There are parts of the Word that guide the marriage. It's the formula or rules of the marriage.

* No adultery.

* No divorce, unless sex outside of marriage took place.
- A divorcee who remarries another committed adultery.
- Lusting after someone outside the marriage could qualify as adultery.

* Only death, and maybe sex outside marriage can permanently seperate the couple.

* The wife must submit to the husband because he his the king of the family.

* The man must love and honor the wife.

* Both couple must love each other. - Love is to passionately treat each other right.
-Love does no wrong.

* They must follow the constitution of the family. It's where the authority of the husband is derived from. And that's the kind of authority the woman is to submit to.
- The woman should only obey such authority otherwise she would be loving her husband more than the CREATOR. The law of CREATOR is built on GOD-first principle.

[Dunamisx]

What’s missing in today’s marriage education? Should it start earlier, like in schools? Or is it something couples should figure out on their own? Let’s discuss!

People need to understand that marriage is about being an help mate and not a sex mate, we have to be responsible for each others in marriage, because we need each others shoulder to lean on, many do take marriage for granted by enslaving their life partner all in the name of respect and cultural believes or traditions, also, everyone going into marriage should be able to understand the needs for courtship before marriage, because this is the only chance of getting used to each other and knowing our partner more better before marriage.