Question to all men

[Obulis]

This isn't without vulnerability, lessons and also a come together (dialogue).
It is highly undisputed and indispensable how this forum has helped in one way or another (financially, mentally, etc off course). The question below I believe would do the same to someone.

Query!!
To all men, what is the hardest lesson a woman has ever taught you?

It could be about patience, seeing the globe through her eyes or maybe pride and so on..
What's the wisdom that hit you hard, harder or hardest
We've all got a reshaping moments. I mean real talk without judgement.
Share even if lessons of other men be it family or friends!

Let me start!!
You can easily lose a woman you are in a relationship with and don't force a woman into a relationship with you even if you feel the most lonely!!

[BADecker]

The hardest lesson that a woman has taught me is that when she sounds good and logical, if she expresses that she doesn't want a family, she is really stupid, or else a conniving liar.

[Zlantann]

Let me start!!
You can easily lose a woman you are in a relationship with and don't force a woman into a relationship with you even if you feel the most lonely!!

Many people might dispute my claims. However, I have learned that true love cannot be bought with money or material possessions. A woman can be loyal to a rich man because of what she gets from him. But she will spend her money on a poor man she loves.

A woman can easily forgive you for any sin but cheating breaks their heart easily. You will lose the trust and commitment of a woman if you cheap on her.

[Stalker22]

The whole listening thing was a tough one for me to wrap my head around.  As a guy, its like we are wired to be fixers - when someone tells us about an issue they are dealing with, we immediately jump into problem-solving mode and  Im gonna solve this for you! But I have come to find thats often not what women want or need when they open up. She just need someone to listen and maybe give her a hug.

So now when a woman in my life shares something with me, I try to zip it and just listen, ask a few questions, and be there for her.  Its not easy rewiring my brain after a lifetime of trying to be Mr. Solution Guy.  But I think Im getting better at it.

[franky1]

The hardest lesson that a woman has taught me is that when she sounds good and logical, if she expresses that she doesn't want a family, she is really stupid, or else a conniving liar.

by your attitude.. you still have not learned.
the lesson was that she does not want to start a family WITH YOU

The whole listening thing was a tough one for me to wrap my head around.  As a guy, its like we are wired to be fixers - when someone tells us about an issue they are dealing with, we immediately jump into problem-solving mode and  Im gonna solve this for you! But I have come to find thats often not what women want or need when they open up. She just need someone to listen and maybe give her a hug.

So now when a woman in my life shares something with me, I try to zip it and just listen, ask a few questions, and be there for her.  Its not easy rewiring my brain after a lifetime of trying to be Mr. Solution Guy.  But I think Im getting better at it.

yep a lesson all of us men have learned early in life. if its about a situation not involving you just let her vent, she just wants to vent... unless her issues are about you, then you need to solve the problem she has with you, but first listen and acknowledge whats she has said

[mich]

Well I do think we must listen to a women if we do want her to like us. A womans brain does think alot different then the brain of us men.

We must listen to her and what she does have to say to us. Women are more sensitive then us men. So we must be careful of what we say to them. They can become alot more upset at us if we say the wrong things to them.

[DediRock]

She showed me that self-worth can’t come from someone else. I had to learn to love myself first, or I’d always be asking others to fill a gap I never addressed.

[Nysusandr]

The hardest lesson  silence is also an answer.
If she stopped talking, it means she made her decision long ago.
I realized it toooo late.

[Riceandbean]

 don't force a woman into a relationship with you even if you feel the most lonely!!

I'm interested in how to force a woman into a relationship , can you teach me?

[Joeboy]

This isn't without vulnerability, lessons and also a come together (dialogue).
It is highly undisputed and indispensable how this forum has helped in one way or another (financially, mentally, etc off course). The question below I believe would do the same to someone.

Query!!
To all men, what is the hardest lesson a woman has ever taught you?

It could be about patience, seeing the globe through her eyes or maybe pride and so on..
What's the wisdom that hit you hard, harder or hardest
We've all got a reshaping moments. I mean real talk without judgement.
Share even if lessons of other men be it family or friends!

Let me start!!
You can easily lose a woman you are in a relationship with and don't force a woman into a relationship with you even if you feel the most lonely!!

The hardest lesson I have learnt from life and then a woman (a friend ), is that sex isn't the only thing that a woman can offer to you, their are so many other things , things ike knowledge, advice, motivation, support etc. And when they cannot offer any of this no matter how good she is in bed, she is not worth it.  But me I like sex no doubt 😆

[Vod]

To all men, what is the hardest lesson a woman has ever taught you?

My penis!   Doesn't get any harder than with a woman. 

[Obulis]

Let me start!!
You can easily lose a woman you are in a relationship with and don't force a woman into a relationship with you even if you feel the most lonely!!

Many people might dispute my claims. However, I have learned that true love cannot be bought with money or material possessions. A woman can be loyal to a rich man because of what she gets from him. But she will spend her money on a poor man she loves.

A woman can easily forgive you for any sin but cheating breaks their heart easily. You will lose the trust and commitment of a woman if you cheap on her.

This a significant fact:
Love is not transactional. Wealth can cause pretentious loyalty, but true affection, regards and loyalty is far beyond material gain.
You have also pointed out the disappointing impact of cheating. How that it can negatively affect commitment and trust in a devastating way that is not common with other mistakes or behaviors.

[boyptc]

This is what I've learned.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

As we grow older, we learn that this the kind of love that we want. Being kind, being patient and someone who knows how to give and take. But at most times, we men want to give more.

You don't boast what you have given to her, what you have added to the relationship and you're not proud of it because you want something in return.

Love is unconditional and it changes us. If we're boastful, it humbles us. If we're hasty, it make us patient.

And we may not learn this from our past relationships but with the current love of our lives, we learn this naturally. We don't mind if it's reciprocated to us the way we want it. But we have to appreciate things that are given to us.

There are many love languages for each other by couples and you have to learn what yours and theirs.

[kyman1]

Well a few!

Women don't care how you look what you have etc. those help but not do the job completely they may like you but respect is needed. They may act childish or hard but you don't know what they are thinking, neither do they they are only emotional about everything that's not bad but kind of a trick if you show you have too much emotion or example act childish, playful not showing high value traits they will finnesse you that gets them dry.

Mainly make your attention valuable by not giving a lot or less don't need to laugh at every joke etc. don't comply, cut them off if it even slightly crosses your limit. I also seen people get left because they just hung out too much everyday prioritize your time and empire don't make your world about her/them.

[nicolas222]

Women need constant attention and compliments, they need to feel like they are the center of attention, if you don't do it constantly, after a while they get bored and leave you.

[BADecker]

The hardest lesson that a woman has taught me is that when she sounds good and logical, if she expresses that she doesn't want a family, she is really stupid, or else a conniving liar.

by your attitude.. you still have not learned.
the lesson was that she does not want to start a family WITH YOU

The whole listening thing was a tough one for me to wrap my head around.  As a guy, its like we are wired to be fixers - when someone tells us about an issue they are dealing with, we immediately jump into problem-solving mode and  Im gonna solve this for you! But I have come to find thats often not what women want or need when they open up. She just need someone to listen and maybe give her a hug.

So now when a woman in my life shares something with me, I try to zip it and just listen, ask a few questions, and be there for her.  Its not easy rewiring my brain after a lifetime of trying to be Mr. Solution Guy.  But I think Im getting better at it.

yep a lesson all of us men have learned early in life. if its about a situation not involving you just let her vent, she just wants to vent... unless her issues are about you, then you need to solve the problem she has with you, but first listen and acknowledge whats she has said

But if she breaks her contract - she should have written it so that we both would know - she is destroying herself more than she is destroying me.

[MNbag]

My mum taught me how to do housework and cooking on my own, helping me becoming a self sufficient adult.

It appears a lot of the answers here seem to generalize all women into a monolith of attention seekers, liars and leeches based on a couple bad experiences; obviously you aren't obligated to feel ok about the situation but don't paint every other woman under that brush.

Women vary a lot like men vary a lot.

[Anointsamz]

The hardest lesson that a woman has taught me is that when she sounds good and logical, if she expresses that she doesn't want a family, she is really stupid, or else a conniving liar.

No I oppse that as the question of all men. I feel every growing man majorly thinks of money, therefore the question on his head will then be how do I make money? because if a man isn't financially stable and goes straight to interfering with women he's just buying more problems/questions to his thoughts, this can actually lead to lack of peace.

[HOPE25]

 don't force a woman into a relationship with you even if you feel the most lonely!!

I'm interested in how to force a woman into a relationship , can you teach me?

Why force it, just love it a little, it will catch on by itself.

[Kagaru]

I believe that every man who has ever loved or lost, has something to say here. In my case, among the most challenging things to learn is related to the realization that logical thinking, or working hard at it, would never lead to the formation of an emotional connection. Once a woman told me, that because you are doing all this in your head, right does not mean that she is being seen or felt secure. This was a slap on the face. I believed that just coming on scene and hammering problems came to be as there was a difference in action and there was a difference in being there and it was all about being there not necessarily doing it but being there listening and being present and being vulnerable sometimes not at all forcing love. When one is not free to make his or her choices, then you are not in love.