Been first born and battling responsibility in this economy

[VRExpress]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

[Solosanz]

You didn't miss anything, it's very normal.

You're the example of someone who high unlikely not able to grow wealth, you can save money, invest it, but once your family need it, you have no way to reject their request. Not having investment/saving doesn't mean you're bad if your money are used for family.

Unfortunately you can't escape from this mess, you might able to escape it, but when you're already hit 35-40 years old, when your siblings already finish school and able to work.

[Man of peace]

My dear,you have not missed anything.you are highly welcome back and I want to let you know that everything you have lost you will recover it and even more than it was before, it's all about your determination and do not feel that you have lost everything  no matter what has happened.

I know that in every families first child of the family are expected to take care of the family or are being looking unto whenever there is anything that came up in the family,but nowadays people are not actually expected to or depended on just because the are first born, rather it's because they can do something to the family,so what am I trying to say is that it's not only that you are a first born ,but because you are an industrious person and you can be able to provide for the family, because if you are a first born and you didn't have anything to provide,my dear you can't kill yourself, and in a situation whereby the younger ones have the financial means to provide for the family,i don't think  the family will reject it because it's not from the first born ,No,so that is why I said it is not about being the first born, but it's all about being hard working and industrious..
So keep it up and keep pushing it shall be well one day, life is not easy at all, especially when you are a man it get more tough for every man, and that is why everyone needs to double his or her hustle..

[peter0425]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

It’s good that bitcoin did its job for you. It was purposeful and shows how she can still easily get her if she wants but this is just my assumption lol.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

First of all, learn how to be aware like I do don:r know merch at that. I mmeant to say in germann, the rise of the yeyo wanting a hanfun fan.

[BABY SHOES]

It's called the sandwich generation.

I have to support my parents... myself... and my family.
I am the eldest child... my father passed away, so I have to support my family, including my younger siblings who are still in school... but it's a struggle that must be overcome, and I will do any job to earn extra income, not just rely on my monthly salary.

Now, I can say I've moved out of that situation my siblings have graduated from school and are now working, meaning the financial burden on our parents has eased.

And that's what we've experienced... now we can still invest in BTC with other sources of income.

[mirakal]

Being the first born brings quite an obligation as well, but that’s just normal, at least you did well your responsibility. And just to be honest, you don’t mess up with your investment, you just did the right thing, by saving your mother from all those treatment expenses. Kudos to you!

Now what have you missed? Nothing that much, just the same old forum discussions. But now that you’re back, just make up those times and get active with the forum as often as you can. Still, prioritize investing into bitcoin, because this could be a good emergency funds in the future, and a good retirement as well.

[alani123]

It's all too common for families to have to go through this sadly especially in countries where there is little to no assistance for such hardships.

In Europe too most countries give very inadequate help. Surely the medicine is covered to the most extent but then... Everything else almost has been provitised and made for profit. Transport, childcare, education... All have become industries that pray on human needs that are actually quite basic. The poor spend all of their income to fulfill these necessities for their kids.

[Cheema02]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

First of all consolidation to you for all the hardships and the mess you had in your life. When we are the elder one in the family and no one is there to look after you, you have to be brave to take care of your family. You had bitcoin which you have used in your family's survival and in the treatment of your mother. Now you have to take a start from zero. First of all, you haven't missed anything if your mother is alive and she is with her children. Mother is a pricless blessing and thousands of bitcoins can't pay her value. You have to start it from a job with a handsome salary if your are an educated person and if not then you have to learn a skill either a technician, electrician or car mechanic. These skills are in demand and will make you earn a handsome amount.

[Stepstowealth]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too,

Not like you shouldn't take care for your family, but you have to be wise about it because one person cannot solve all the problems of the family. You will surprised that if you try, and maybe go broke or die in the process, your family, the one that you went broke for or died from will still find a way to survive.

Taking care of your aged parents is good, but for your siblings, as long as they are of age to work and hustle for money, they should never be your entire responsibility. If you must help, try to empower them, and set them in a position to work for their own money to take care of most of their needs.

[rachael9385]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

It's really a hard time right now, that economy is really bad and everyone is brainstorming on ways to survive. Being the first born comes with a lot of responsibilities and if you are not financially stable it might be really frustrating for you to cope with your own needs and taking care of that family. One advice I would give to you is,  if your siblings are above the age of 20 then you must sit them and tell them to get something doing or learn a skill so that burden would be lighter

[Roseline492]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

Don't give up there are so many place to start, don't feel that all hope is lost since you have sold all your Bitcoin for your mothers medication, all you need is just the motivation you ones had during the time you started the first one then you will be surprised with the growth also but however don't use Bitcoin as investment of immediate satisfaction of need so economically speaking I would advise you have an additional running business of yourself since your family is your responsibility because you can do Bitcoin and feed them from the business without feeling much of the pressure you will feel only in Bitcoin.

[Spaceman1000$]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

For the fact that you are the first born of the family doesn't mean every problem the families is facing should be hipped on you, the reason why we are called family is because we are a unit of people and in that unit everybody's contributions matters, hence the family can share the problems and responsibilities within themselves, then the responsibility would not be placed on a single individual, You cannot be weighing 50kg while carrying a problem 100kg in your head, you will certainly crash.

However in terms of starting up, I believe hence there is life there is hope, you can do well to leverage on friends, former colleagues and close associate on how best to start up Life on a gradual process, I believe you can always start from somewhere and gather yourself all together again.

[Ucy]

If the position as the first child is an official role, the person in the position would need to be equipped or knowledgeable enough to serve the role properly, so that he/she guides or handles the followers like business and they could end up successful/healthy and wouldn't need to depend on you too much to solve their problems.
In that role you will need to guide or tell them what to do to become successful and healthy, if your advice is good, most (especially those who are weak or strongly influenced by corrupted world) will likely reject or not follow it. When they fail or have issue in their bad path they will be too ashamed to come to you for help, and your burden or responsibility will reduced drastically.

With a good guidance, your followers or subjects should eventually begin to do well to support or sustain themselves and reduce the work load on you. If they take the wrong path the consequences could take too much to fix and they wouldn't be bold enough to come to you since the issues they face are likely due to the neglect of your teachings.
Better to take the preventative approach by being proactive and doing what is right always. The family members should eat/consume healthy things and avoid things that will negatively affect them or their health.

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

Honestly many have been complaining of the same, that being the first born, they are saddled with the responsibilities of their younger ones, while on the contrary, some have also seen it applicable to them in the opposite direction, whereby you see the first born struggling while the younger ones making it and the first born struggling to earn a living, this shows more of a personal decision to everything we do and the way we have seen life being applicable to us individually, if we watch things happen and we are not part of it, then we are already losing and missing out.

[DaNNy001]

Welcome back to the forum, you are not that only one who is experiencing all of these, you are strong and taking up such responsibilities shows that you are on the right track...it's just too bad that Africa doesn't support hard working people, you have to pave a way for yourself,  it's going to take time but you will definitely get to where you want to be in life...it's not easy but don't complain anymore just focus

[Majestic-milf]

 Welcome back and hope your Ma has recovered. It's not an easy feat to be the eldest child because there'd be much expectations from you and if you're not careful or the type to have a plan, you'd find that the needs of your parents and younger ones would overshadow your own plans and you'd hardly have anything saved up for yourself.
 Where I come from, it's the first Borns that seems to have it the worst for them especially if they are from a struggling background and either the parents are late or aged because it automatically means that they would turn out to be the ones providing and with the economy that is harsh, it would then mean that they would have to work extra hard to be able to meet up.

[Btcdeybodi]

It's mostly in African countries that they believe that the first born have a different responsibility than the rest of the children but naturally, first born are to take care of the younger ones till they are grown to a stage they can also begin to take responsibility of the family. However, the economy now is very cruel to everyone and not only the first born. There are some families where the first born even finds it difficult to navigate through life while his younger siblings are doing far better. It is really challenging to most first born because i don't know if it is the responsibility they shoulder in the family that makes some of them to become wayward at last. I think that in a family that have grown up children, the idea of being a first born should be neglected, all hands must be on deck towards the betterment of the family and as a first born my advice to you is that you can never solve family challenges all by yourself and you should be selective on the responsibilities you should take, give attention to the ones that are most important and forget the rest. It is also important for you to understand that you own yourself a good life, responsibilities will keep coming but try and ignore some, save money and build your life after which you can return back and aid the family when you are balanced.

[uneng]

Since 2022 we went from a crashed market to a recent ATH. I'm not sure if now is the right time to start investing once again, because since the ATH, price hasn't changed much yet, and as history shows us, after ATHs the price suffers a correction and the market enters a bearish season.

Anyway, don't feel like you have missed anything. You were where you needed to be during the recent years. Life imposed a situation to you, and you fulfilled your duty with honor and loyalty with those you have to take care of. You could have escaped, and worried only about yourself, but you didn't.

Only the decision of taking care your family already speaks much louder than any profit you could havd made on this industry meanwhile.

Now, if you already have time and energy to focus on finances once again, do this. I would suggest you to ask your brothers and sisters to do this as well, so the burden doesn't remain solely over your shoulders.

Moreover, don't stick solely to Bitcoin or crypto this time. Study another categories of investments you could destiny your money thinking on short, medium and long term returns.

[Solosanz]

I see there are many bad people who're selfish with their family, which saying @OP should prioritize his life over his family.

@OP's mother is sick and he has siblings (which is younger than him and high likely still at school/university), then who should be responsible if it's not @OP? there's no way @OP can save, he need to buy food and pay bills, he also need to pay medical bills and tuition fees for his siblings which is expensive like afford more person.

[New Judgement]

Well it will interest you to know that not all first born are responsible enough to cater for the needs of their family should their parents get sick, or when their younger ones needs something. It varies in different homes, some first borns are so carefree that nothing concerns them. They depend on their younger ones to take care of them and assist them with their needs. So this believe that first born are always choked with family responsibilities are not entirely true.