Been first born and battling responsibility in this economy

[Roseline492]

For the fact that you are the first born of the family doesn't mean every problem the families is facing should be hipped on you, the reason why we are called family is because we are a unit of people and in that unit everybody's contributions matters, hence the family can share the problems and responsibilities within themselves, then the responsibility would not be placed on a single individual, You cannot be weighing 50kg while carrying a problem 100kg in your head, you will certainly crash.

However in terms of starting up, I believe hence there is life there is hope, you can do well to leverage on friends, former colleagues and close associate on how best to start up Life on a gradual process, I believe you can always start from somewhere and gather yourself all together again.

Sharing responsibility is how family with finance does so that everybody will no what to offer but however on this situation there is no need waiting others to share any responsibility since it needed an urgent medical attention because some situations doesn't require much time and before the person will contact there siblings and they start rally round to bring there own share of the bills things might actually gone out of hands by then. Although some person naturally give themselves the total responsibility of the family because any peni the got they take it to the family making others who are supposed to reciprocate in also contributing to start becoming stingy in releasing there money, is easy to amend anything from the beginning than doing it later.

[SATWAT]

It must all be worth it. She's your mother; they're your family. You didn't lose it in gambling, bad trade calls, hack, phishing, whatever. You deliberately spent it to make your mom better and to provide for the family. You should be very proud you're able to support them!

Yes, it feels good to be able to provide for your family. To be able to give back to the ones who raised us. But it becomes a burden when you have your own family now and you also have to provide for your not only your parents but also your siblings. Your siblings should also learn how to provide for themselves eventually.

Siblings will eventually have less experience and will be looking onto us to provide for them and parents. It will be our responsibility to make their master few skills and to teach them how to start earning nice wages not only to support themselves but also to be able to give a helping hand in household expenses. Siblings will have enough time if we are providing initially so they can learn something and get a decent job where they can earn a decent pay. Being the first born does not only mean providing but also to be responsible and teach siblings how to survive in this world.

If I was in OP's place, I would have made my siblings join a nice college or at least join some courses where they can learn some skills which will later help them earn a decent amount in real world. There are number of skills which once mastered can make our lives financially stable.

[SOKO-DEKE]

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

Honestly, it is not always easy for the firstborn especially when the father is no longer alive. And when the person in head is a male child, there is a lot of responsibility on their shoulders. In Africa especially in the country I come from and within my culture responsibility traditionally belongs to the firstborn of the family.but, I think this is gradually changing. Education has opened many people eyes, and things are shifting. Nowadays, the firstborn is no longer expected to bear all the responsibility alone it is being shared among other children in the family.

I am not the firstborn in my family but honestly, I also have responsibilities that I take on. Like in my side the older children ahead of me are not really earning much they are government workers, and as we all know, the pay rate is small for this kind of economy. They are also married with children, so even the money they make can’t properly take care of their own families,they are just managing.So, as the lastborn, I need to take on some responsibilities too. Sometimes, it’s not really about who is the firstborn other children in the family also take on responsibilities. But the main point is this it depends on who has the heart and the willingness to do.

[Jatiluhung]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

But I still admire you for fulfilling your responsibilities and obligations in caring for your parents and supporting them. I'm sure the good you've done will be equally rewarded one day. Something good will come your way eventually.

And rest assured, you can restart your journey to rebuild your finances. And you'll be back at a point where you can start investing again. Most importantly, you and your mother are healthy. Because I believe health is far more valuable.

I may not be the first child. But I believe that in my country, all children have the same responsibility towards their parents. It doesn't matter if they're the first child or not.

[Emjay24]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

I hope you are not only providing for your siblings but empowering them to make money on their own. It would really relieve you of the burden of remaining the provider forever if you enroll them to acquire profitable skills and when they are done and earning they contribute to the family well being too while taking responsibility of providing for themselves.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

you cannot run away from responsibilities as a first born in Africa, but you can navigate through it to your advantage by making sure you raise capable hands too so you don't take up the burden forever

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

The economy is rough to everybody and not just first born, inflation is hitting globally so the only thing you can do is to work around your finances to earn more in order to take care of your finances easily.

You missed nothing specifically, continue engaging meaningfully in the forum and maybe there could be something for you.

[Fiatless]

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

The first son carries an enormous responsibility in my location. He would have to play the role of the father if he is late or not financially stable. But this is not a good culture because it could be an overburden. You have not missed anything because you can recover knowledge and buy Bitcoin. Start small and keep buying and hodling. My family doesn't overburden the first son. We share responsibilities so that nobody would be under pressure.   

[HONDACD125]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

It's not like you will have responsibilities only for being the first bone, but it's true that if you are living within your family, and you have a large family, and you are the eldest one of them the children, after your parents, you will be the one who will need to take care of the household and its expenses. Some people become mature before time only because of this thing, you take too many responsibilities on your shoulders, see and experience things that you shouldn't in that age, and by the time you become a fully grown-up person, you will be way too strong for your age.

I know it's hard when you are going through it, but believe me, that phase of your life will make you a stronger person overall, it will teach you lessons you would never learn in school. It will make you understand the value of things, especially money, and you will learn how to spend money properly so that you don't waste any of it on anything. You would never think of buying something for yourself because that starts to feel like wasting money.

[Hamza2424]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

The same way it is treating you, but some have better situation, better economy, better facility, and some don't, I am not judging you, but you have faced most, I am glad that if you are out of that life now, and speaking of what you have missed, I think you did not had any chance and what you did was really good and it was a duty of a responsible son and you fulfilled that.

Life is too short in sentences but it is too long for struggling ones, they have to make a lot of efforts for everything, they sometimes fed up of this, but bro never give up, always support your family and one day you will be making more and the progress will be more too, to observe that, look back into your past and ask yourself if you have improved.

I am the first born haha, I know everything you said, and the economy is treating me brutally, but I am making up, putting in effort, working day and night.

[goldkingcoiner]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

I think that you should not let anyone or anything drain you of your life and your time. It is unfair that some cultures consider having children as getting free butlers. You owe nothing to anyone but yourself.

But if you are going to accept the responsibilities (which I consider very honorable), then there is nothing wrong in not having money because you have to spend it. At some point you may again see extra money. But at that time you could invest it instead of leaving it in the bank or somewhere in your home...

[Findingnemo]

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What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

You missed the health insurance.

If you had the right one then you won't be using your life savings on medical emergencies which are inevitable so prepare yourself to face it better by having the right insurance for the whole family and there should be no compromise in it.

First, second or 3rd doesn't matter as long as we realize we should contribute to the family and there is no one else to support then it can get hard but trust me you can get through this just like how you did. If you don't have anything left then just start from scratch, your success was just postponed and nothing else change from the course.

[tabas]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

I think that in most cultures, there is always the pressure for those firstborns. We can't remove that for being responsible but don't chain yourself to being the provider of the entire family because you have a life to live as well.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

While there is pressure for most firstborn who are not born with golden spoon. But it's what we call love and being responsible. It's okay to help if you can but don't give all yourself to it. Though this can be a badge of honor for you for helping your mom, that sacrifice is hard to do when you can't do it anymore to her.

[El_Tammy]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

Welcome back man, I swear I totally understand you for real. Being a first child in this economy is definitely just like being in prison my bro because you got hell load of responsibilities packed up for you. To some point, you got to be more than determined to even wake up in the morning and want to continue pushing. Living everyday that comes with the knowledge that you're the man everyone looks up to, calls when there an emergency and expects something from when there are issues. Believe me when I say I'm speaking from my heart bro, from experiences that has made me wake up in the middle of the night countless times and cry because I have myself alone to console me. And one thing about being a man is that you keep all these things to yourself and can't cry it out to someone else and now about the aspect of investments, it's just that you can't keep them when certain things come up and man I get you. I know how it all feels and I hope you get back up really soon my gee. It's really not easy living with the responsibilities of a first child in this economy for real and I hope we don't run mad out of thinking.

[Pearl_20]

To be honest, you're a good son to your mum and the very best to your siblings some first borns will prefer to keep their savings even if their family is suffering to the point of death.

I'm sure you'll bounce back, it's not easy out there for anyone the economy isn't helping at all. I do give credit to my older sister who happens to be the first child, she's married but always keep the family together, that's why when things gets better the best you can do is equip your siblings so you can have time to invest in yourself and save too.  Once they're into something productive it will reduce your spending as the first child.

[shield132]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

Just like you, I'm in a terrible situation too but I'm glad I followed UI/UX design instead of pursuing a career in banking and finance because this profession pays more in my country and I have the possibility to work remotely. I don't work remotely right now but in a year or two, I think I will.
At the moment, I work two jobs to earn a normal income. Salaries in my country are very low. Average salary here is $600 but prices on food and every product is as high as it can be. It's more expensive to buy a food here than in France while salaries are 5 times less. Rent is also almost as expensive as in France. This doesn't make sense to me and I don't understand how people don't die from starvation.
I hope I'll escape my situation one day. Financially I'm not doing badly but working 12-14 hours every day without a single day break kills me.

[M47AK16]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

Yes, being a first born will come with it's own responsibilities but also opportunities to really do something good and change your family's financial condition. You will be the one responsible to support your family financially after your father and with the medical bills, you really have to be quite dedicated to change everything that's happening in your life right now. I really adore your patience and the ability to stand firm but you should really take as much efforts as possible because somehow, it is your responsibility.

Try finding various jobs where you can spend a couple of hours daily and still manage to get a decent pay. I won't suggest you to go for investments again because no matter how much you invest, you'll end up withdrawing those investments for urgent needs. Try to get as many jobs as possible because the more you earn, the more stable you and your family's life will be.

[retreat]

I understand how you feel, it is indeed very painful when you are the backbone of your family, you bear the responsibility for various things in your family. But never give up, stay motivated that you can get through these difficult times. Don't think that you are missing out on anything, because every struggle you go through now will shape you into a stronger and more mature person. The good you do, especially your devotion to your parents, will never be in vain. The most important thing is to stay motivated and live your life and believe that one day your life will be much better than today.

[junder]

Not everyone is like that. I was born the youngest child and had to cover almost all of my family's needs, such as paying the electricity and water bills, or buying groceries.
I have an older brother, but unfortunately, he's quite the jerk. He only thinks about himself and is busy with his gaming world, and even that doesn't produce anything except wasting his time. He doesn't even want to work.
The most annoying thing is when I have a job and my mom tells me she's buying a new phone and paying for it in installments, but my mom says I have to cover the installments. So don't think that all firstborns have to support the family financially.

[shinratensei_]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

I can understand how hard it is being a sandwich generation, I've got plenty of friends who have the same problem, apparently the only way to get out from such predicament is to earn so much you can afford anything while also reserving money for saving.
It's definitely going to be a hard thing to get through though, some may even fail. Find side hustle and so on and then try to rebuild your wealth again. That's literally the only way here.

[goro_chief]

It feels good to be back after so many life draining hardship of life, I have been battling some life difficulty, my mother sicked for a whole year and as the first born of my family I have to take care of my siblings too, it was too much for me, the little BTC I managed to safe in 2022 have all been used to settle bills and buy drugs for my mom.

If you are from Africa and you happen to be first born of a family where there is nothing like richy rich there is a problem, I thought I could escape this mess by starting to invest but I lost everything to responsibilities.

What have I missed? Where should I start from now? Are you the first born of your family? How is the economy treating you and your family?

Really sorry to hear about your mom and all the pressure you've been under. Life can be incredibly tough, especially with those family responsibilities. It sounds like you did the right thing using your BTC savings for your family - that's more important than any investment.

You asked where to start. Tbh, just start from zero again. Don't rush. The forum is still here. Maybe look into learning a new skill you can do online to earn a little something? And when you're ready to get back into crypto, start super small. Lurk around, read threads, and DYOR before putting any money in. Wishing you and your family all the best.

[Ab de villiers]

Honestly many have been complaining of the same, that being the first born, they are saddled with the responsibilities of their younger ones, while on the contrary, some have also seen it applicable to them in the opposite direction, whereby you see the first born struggling while the younger ones making it and the first born struggling to earn a living, this shows more of a personal decision to everything we do and the way we have seen life being applicable to us individually, if we watch things happen and we are not part of it, then we are already losing and missing out.

Being a first Born means sacrifices from the dream specially if you belongs to the middle class, then you have to ready to bear the burden of responsibilities. In fact he mature before the time because of this. It is right to say that in the success of every younger siblings there is  usually efforts of older one. He often Join the job market too early to support the expenses, education and other needs.
If you are a first born you have to forgo your parties, your outings or sometime your own  education.  In simple words he forget himself to facilitate the family members, he has no choice of  taking any break because family depends on it. It is sad reality that despite all these efforts or struggle, he oftenly got not respect that he truly deserve.