How i lost everything because of the gambling, now i quit but its too late

[Kelward]

I've seen your thread a couple of times but I never read it, I thought that it was too long for a gambling post but now that I did I understand why it has to be this long. I sympathize with you for everything that you've been through and I encourage you to stay strong, never give up because winners don't quit. Most of us have our stories and they are not palatable but we're still here so I'm glad that you have hope, hold onto it and work towards bouncing back, victory is sure.

People who are desperate to recover what they lost financially makes a mistake of thinking that gambling is a get rich quick scheme, they will use their remaining resources to focus on gambling. Winnings in gambling is by luck and if you're gambling irresponsibly and you're not lucky to be on a winning streak you will end up worse off than when you started gambling to recover your lost wealth. Gamble for fun with amount you can afford to loose and don't be desperate to win.

[maydna]

You are still lucky because you have 2 great kids and a wife who still supports you, no matter what you are now. You should get up from your bottom and walk step by step because you want to give happiness to your family. You need to pay your family more than before and while you have a second chance to try, you should be careful this time.

You have experienced before so make it as your lesson to be better. You have a hope to have a better life so don't waste it because your family is waiting for that. And when you can achieve your goal, that will be for your family. Nothing is more important than them because they are waiting for you and make them smile big at you.

[martinex]

You are still lucky because you have 2 great kids and a wife who still supports you, no matter what you are now. You should get up from your bottom and walk step by step because you want to give happiness to your family. You need to pay your family more than before and while you have a second chance to try, you should be careful this time.

You have experienced before so make it as your lesson to be better. You have a hope to have a better life so don't waste it because your family is waiting for that. And when you can achieve your goal, that will be for your family. Nothing is more important than them because they are waiting for you and make them smile big at you.

The question is whether OP will come back once everything returns to normal. Because we know that addiction will come back at any time even though we have previously experienced bitter times of defeat with the consequences that our children and wives also suffer because of the gambling we do. Are they guilty, of course not?

I feel happy if I have a life partner and great children, especially when financial conditions are crashing, not just losing gambling, losing trading or participating in some kind of fake night. If we honestly express it, they can accept it and continue to give encouragement not to do it again and continue living and it is very rare for us to see this.

Basically, the level of money for spending is less than enough because we are no longer comfortable because we have to think hard about finding other income to cover the shortage, even though we don't express it.

[LUCKMCFLY]

When we talk about lending, I think so long as you are not using it to do important thing you are beginning to make a big financial mistakes that might affect you in the future. Financial mistakes just like borrowing money to gamble and to fund your greedy needs as you can not do without them. However, the fact that you don't also have am easy means to pay back shows you are making a very big mistake.

The mere act of lending money is already a financial mistake, it's a self imposed sentence, it's something that shouldn't be done, except in some circumstances beyond one's control where it's necessary spending it in a casino is the worst, well, that depends on the person, but very bad.

[Fiasem20]

When we talk about lending, I think so long as you are not using it to do important thing you are beginning to make a big financial mistakes that might affect you in the future. Financial mistakes just like borrowing money to gamble and to fund your greedy needs as you can not do without them. However, the fact that you don't also have am easy means to pay back shows you are making a very big mistake.

The mere act of lending money is already a financial mistake, it's a self imposed sentence, it's something that shouldn't be done, except in some circumstances beyond one's control where it's necessary spending it in a casino is the worst, well, that depends on the person, but very bad.

The aspect of lending money for the purpose of gambling has damaged a lot of relationships because the chances of paying back can be thin.I think a topic similar to this matter has been raised here;if you would lend a friend money knowing quite well that the purpose of the loan would end up in a casino,and my answer was NO.The outcome of gambling is uncertain,so if you don't mind risking your money then another person's money shouldn't be your final option.Some gamblers just need to understand that gambling isn't a money making factory that they can earn passive income whenever they stake their fund.

[Donk1]

I can't say I feel your pain but based on all what you have said it feels like you have been through a lot, but yet you are not willing to give up which is good well i believe that there is a purpose for everything and as a matter of fact now you know that in this life, it's all about you and your family. Never include any third party friends, because in time of hardship they are always unreliable. When they might all look up on you when you had everything, and when you are at your lowest, they would now be looking down on you. Well it's all about having a goal in mind, because I believe right now, as long as you are alive there is still a chance to be more greater than you were before, because right now you have the knowledge and the skills. All you need now is a good strategy and planning. That's all it's easy to say just keep your self at your best because I believe that  your determination is what is pushing you. Just don't give up..

[LUCKMCFLY]

Taking out loans for unimportant things is already a wrong move, especially if taking out loans to gamble is the first step towards ruin.

Yes, lending money is already a bad financial decision, because it implies a responsibility that we must bear and fulfill completely , and it also means that we must get more money for the interest, so lending money should only be done in emergencies, that's how I see it, but for gambling it's not the right thing to do.

[Rufsilf]

Taking out loans for unimportant things is already a wrong move, especially if taking out loans to gamble is the first step towards ruin.

Yes, lending money is already a bad financial decision, because it implies a responsibility that we must bear and fulfill completely , and it also means that we must get more money for the interest, so lending money should only be done in emergencies, that's how I see it, but for gambling it's not the right thing to do.

It is a reminder for us that gambling is something we need to deal with carefully. Irresponsible gambling will put us at high risk. That is why, as much as possible, we don't have to take a loan for gambling reasons. It was not just a wrong decision, but most likely, it will put our finances in critical condition. We have to learn from those who did this (taking a loan) as an example of why we should not.

"Just gamble only our extra money."
Important words that we need to keep in mind. Otherwise, we open the door for irresponsible gambling.

[LUCKMCFLY]

Before you give out money to someone, it means they are your friend or family, and it also means that you trust them. If for any reason they refuse to pay, first the trust will be broken, and secondly, you will never have the mind to tender any form of monetary help to them because they have given you the wrong impression that they are not the type that pays back loans.

When it comes to money, things get complicated. We shouldn't mix them because such trust often damages business That's why money, family, and friends should be kept separate to avoid problems. Avoiding problems is the best thing, which is why lending money is such a delicate matter.

[Odogwu-Blockchain]

Before you give out money to someone, it means they are your friend or family, and it also means that you trust them. If for any reason they refuse to pay, first the trust will be broken, and secondly, you will never have the mind to tender any form of monetary help to them because they have given you the wrong impression that they are not the type that pays back loans.

When it comes to money, things get complicated. We shouldn't mix them because such trust often damages business That's why money, family, and friends should be kept separate to avoid problems. Avoiding problems is the best thing, which is why lending money is such a delicate matter.

It's not always too easy to avoid problems no matter how much you try especially when dealing money with family and friends. There are businesses that doesn't need family to get involved no matter how professional and experienced they may be, because using emotions to interact with doing business always end in collapse and destruction.

I've seeing lending money to a loved one as a gift, I never ask it back and I don't care if they pay back or not. It's bad using emotions for business.

[LeyMonte]

When we talk about lending, I think so long as you are not using it to do important thing you are beginning to make a big financial mistakes that might affect you in the future. Financial mistakes just like borrowing money to gamble and to fund your greedy needs as you can not do without them. However, the fact that you don't also have am easy means to pay back shows you are making a very big mistake.

The mere act of lending money is already a financial mistake, it's a self imposed sentence, it's something that shouldn't be done, except in some circumstances beyond one's control where it's necessary spending it in a casino is the worst, well, that depends on the person, but very bad.

The aspect of lending money for the purpose of gambling has damaged a lot of relationships because the chances of paying back can be thin.I think a topic similar to this matter has been raised here;if you would lend a friend money knowing quite well that the purpose of the loan would end up in a casino,and my answer was NO.The outcome of gambling is uncertain,so if you don't mind risking your money then another person's money shouldn't be your final option.Some gamblers just need to understand that gambling isn't a money making factory that they can earn passive income whenever they stake their fund.

If you lend money for gambling purposes, the chances of getting it back are very low because if the person you are lending money to loses that money while gaming at the casino then his relationship with you will be ruined and the matter of giving money will also become uncertain. This is happening a lot these days and there have been problems with betting money in many good bonding casinos. If the person you are lending money to has a passive income and has the ability to repay the money you borrowed, then you can give it to him. Moreover, if he bets with the money you borrowed then it will not be good at all to give it to him.

[Z_MBFM]

I was once addicted to gambling and now I have shared my story here where I gambled with loans and lost them. At that time I was so emotional and positive about gambling that I quickly forgot all the losses and jumped in there again with a big dream. Thus I suffered a lot. But when I understood the things at that time I had lost a lot of loans. However, I was able to come back from that. I still gamble but not as emotional as before. Now I enjoy it normally and can control myself.

[Slimzeee]

I wouldn't lie just to say I understand how you feel, because I honestly have not felt it and do not expect to. But I feel you and your energy, and I believe that for you to still be able to speak at this point in time, there’s definitely light at the end of the tunnel. You can get all those things back, I believe. You just have to keep trying and never relent.

[Orpichukwu]

Before you give out money to someone, it means they are your friend or family, and it also means that you trust them. If for any reason they refuse to pay, first the trust will be broken, and secondly, you will never have the mind to tender any form of monetary help to them because they have given you the wrong impression that they are not the type that pays back loans.

When it comes to money, things get complicated. We shouldn't mix them because such trust often damages business That's why money, family, and friends should be kept separate to avoid problems. Avoiding problems is the best thing, which is why lending money is such a delicate matter.

You are correct, though, but there are situations in which we find ourselves where you just can't help but try to render that little help of lending out to someone because they are really in need of it. There is one thing a family friend said to us: if you ever want to lend money to someone close to you, to be on the safer side, don't lend them more than you can let go because the voice they used while asking might not be the same when you start asking for a refund.

[junder]

The mere act of lending money is already a financial mistake, it's a self imposed sentence, it's something that shouldn't be done, except in some circumstances beyond one's control where it's necessary spending it in a casino is the worst, well, that depends on the person, but very bad.

My thinking about lending money to an addict is wrong, because by lending it we are not helping him to stop but rather helping him to remain in his addiction. I had just paid off a loan I had taken out to the bank for necessities, and because my friend knew I had already paid it off, he asked me to borrow it again but that the repayment would be his responsibility, so he borrowed money in my name and through me. But I didn't do it because I knew he was in the addiction phase which I thought would most likely go badly. Even if he ended up winning big and being able to repay all the loans he had taken out through me, it wouldn't be a good angle because later when he needed money, he might be more daring to do other things that could even harm others, for example, if I had loaned him yesterday and he couldn't pay it back, I would have been the one who suffered. Luckily, I was able to fight him by refusing.

[$weetne$$]

This is such a really huge sad hit and I can only imagine what it is like with you at the moment, a few may not be able to take it all and get through this phase because it may be considered as just so much for them to handle but here you are gradually pulling through, my heart goes to you, with best of wishes that things eventually return afloat. I get your message that at down times like this, help is usually not easy and so we should not exhust our living gambling.

[dunfida]

Before you give out money to someone, it means they are your friend or family, and it also means that you trust them. If for any reason they refuse to pay, first the trust will be broken, and secondly, you will never have the mind to tender any form of monetary help to them because they have given you the wrong impression that they are not the type that pays back loans.

When it comes to money, things get complicated. We shouldn't mix them because such trust often damages business That's why money, family, and friends should be kept separate to avoid problems. Avoiding problems is the best thing, which is why lending money is such a delicate matter.

It's not always too easy to avoid problems no matter how much you try especially when dealing money with family and friends. There are businesses that doesn't need family to get involved no matter how professional and experienced they may be, because using emotions to interact with doing business always end in collapse and destruction.

I've seeing lending money to a loved one as a gift, I never ask it back and I don't care if they pay back or not. It's bad using emotions for business.

Lending money feels simple at first because you trust the person and believe they will return it but once they fail to pay the trust breaks and the relationship shifts. after that moment it becomes hard to offer help again because the mind remembers the feeling of being let down and it changes how you see the person. money exposes character in ways normal situations never do. Mixing money with family and friends brings complications because emotions enter the picture and logic disappears which is why many people say business and relationships should stay separate. avoiding problems becomes the goal but even with caution things still get messy because expectations and feelings collide.

Some people choose to treat money given to loved ones as a gift because asking for it back can damage the bond and create resentment. removing the expectation protects both sides and avoids emotional fights. using emotions in business always leads to mistakes and treating loans as gifts becomes a way to stay peaceful even when the money never returns.

[Dickiy]

I was once addicted to gambling and now I have shared my story here where I gambled with loans and lost them. At that time I was so emotional and positive about gambling that I quickly forgot all the losses and jumped in there again with a big dream. Thus I suffered a lot. But when I understood the things at that time I had lost a lot of loans. However, I was able to come back from that. I still gamble but not as emotional as before. Now I enjoy it normally and can control myself.

Your experience is similar to mine. I've also been addicted before, and I often even forced myself to gamble while driving. Yes, it's very risky, as it could endanger my life. But that's what happens when gamblers are addicted. They don't care about anything around them, as long as they can gamble.

I also often resorted to loans as an alternative to finance my gambling activities. Ultimately, I ended up in debt, and the bank confiscated most of my belongings due to my inability to pay.

I completely agree with your opinion that when a gambler is addicted, it's very easy for them to forget previous losses. In other words, the losses they experience actually motivate them to continue playing with bigger dreams.

[LUCKMCFLY]

"Just gamble only our extra money."
Important words that we need to keep in mind. Otherwise, we open the door for irresponsible gambling.

When there's extra money, which sometimes we don't reach that exquisite level economically, we can have that freedom, as long as we don't neglect other things, like family fun, buying them ice cream, or pizza, something like that If we're a little stingy, why not? Giving ourselves that little treat is the best thing in the world If we can't afford it, it doesn't matter, the fun remains.

[348Judah]

Before its too late, we should act fast, we cant be gambling the way we want and apply nothing to caution us from what we should do and not, gambling is all about fun, we manage to understand the nature of how things works and we also see to the fact that these were being applied accordingly to how they could benefit us even as we gamble, not that after taking some nasty decisions on gambling with high risk and lose big, then we regret taking such decision and the thought of quitting pops up.